Ep. 129: CYL Day 27-Redefining You

It is our denial and resistance that causes us pain, not events themselves.  When we accept the facts in front of us, we can see with clarity if we are contributing to the problem.  Then we are free to discover new ways to master the situation at hand.  The way we conduct ourselves shows us who is in control:  fear or freedom.  And the choice is alwlays up to us.  Awareness brings acceptance and that brings a new ability to see beyond the present circustances with a positive attitude.  When we put action behind our positive thinking, it will spur change in our life that seems like magic.

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“It is not always easy to be true to yourself, but now that you know what it is like, it is too late to turn back. You are responsible for all you have learned. It is in your heart, mind, and soul whether you are actualizing it or not. It is there. Honor it. It will serve you when you least expect it.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

  • What are your three favorite memories?
  • What is your vision for you life?
  • Name a movie that best represents your life.
  • If you had a sequel, what would it be called?
  • What helps you process things in your life? What works for you in an empowering way?
  • What have you learned about how you process information when you are afraid?
  • What have you learned about how you process information when you are Fearless?
  • Name three people on your support team.
  • As you’ve been on this Change your Life journey, did your friends change? Are you able to be yourself with your friends?
  • Define what “friendship” means to you now. Is that different than when you began Change your Life?
  • Have you been able to use your newfound Change your Life skills at work?
  • What are the top three things you have learned that have supported your career?
  • How has being true to yourself affected your career situation?
  • What does home mean to you?
  • How has life changed since Day One?
  • What do you want to change but haven’t had the courage to?
  • Define “love.”
  • How have your love relationships been affected by your commitment to be true?
  • What needs to change and what skill will help you change it?
  • If you could tell your mate one thing that you have yet to say, what would it be?
  • What areas of your life are easiest to change? In which areas is change more difficult? What’s the difference between these areas?

Today, honor your growth: Write down five acknowledgments for your shifts and changes. Remember to frame them in the positive, write them in the present tense and be specific. “Today, I acknowledge myself for …”

Ep. 128: CYL Week 26-Never Confront Again

Just saying the word “confrontation” makes us feel edgy and defensive. Yet when we feel like we have to confront, it’s because we don’t believe there is another way out.

But there is another answer … an answer that brings support and fosters understanding. This episode of Live Out Loud Mondays shares another skill from Rhonda Britten’s Change your Life in 30 Days that helps improve communication so you never have to confront again.

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“If you think you must confront someone, you must feel frustrated, overwhelmed, out of ideas, and that there is little possibility for a solution. Otherwise, why would you want to confront? Couldn’t you instead have a conversation?” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Today, clarify.

  1. Who are you avoiding?
  2. What questions haven’t been asked?
  3. What boundaries have not been clarified or rules explained?
  4. What expectations are you holding onto that validate confrontation?

For the next 24 hours, clarify your conversations at every opportunity. It is your day to ask questions and listen. Today you must be willing to change your perceptions of another. When that happens, you are then free to change yourself.

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Ep. 127: CYL Week 25-Forget Motivation

Do you find yourself having to keep yourself motivated? What do you do to stay motivated? How often do you need to motivate yourself? Join us today for our 25th episode of Change Your Life in 30 Days (weeks for us) as we talk about motivation and how to really maintain it.

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“Motivation is a short-term solution. I think of all the motivational tapes I listened to and the books I read. I would get hyped up and excited about what I was going to do, but I would rarely accomplish it. The consistency was gone because I was waiting to be motivated instead of being proactive. I let my feelings get in the way. Left with the guilt and shame of another failed attempt, I once again tried to convince myself that if I only was motivated my life would get better.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

  • What effect are you trying to produce? What results do you want to attain?
  • What are you committed to?
  • Define contentment.
  • What if loss was one of your greatest teachers? What loss have you denied that is standing in the way of your contentment and ultimate satisfaction?

Today, court contentment.

  1. What am I trying to gain when I want to become more motivated?
  2. If I were content, what would happen to my passion and purpose?
  3. What do you think the connection is between motivation and contentment?
  4. At the end of the day, list your top five most contented moments. Be sure to acknowledge your willingness to notice and nurture them today.

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Ep. 126: CYL Day 24-What’s Love Got to Do with It?

Happiness is fleeting.  Joy is not.  Happiness is usually based on how you feel in a particular moment.  Joy is cultivated when we no longer look outside of oruselves for approval but instead seek our own personal “approval” above all others.  It occurs when we learn to love ourselves and stays when we learn to be true to ourselves.  Today we will explore Self-Loving Acts and what works for you.

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“Be willing to love yourself a little bit each day and joy will be your reward. When was the last time you felt joy? Inner joy is something, when attained, that is always present, assuring you of a better life — decision after decision.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Act “as if” you love yourself as you answer the following questions:

  • I realized I was starting to love myself when …
  • My most important act of self-love is …
  • Learning how to _____________ is a loving act.
  • I am worth loving because …
  • I like myself when I …
  • I am no longer afraid to …
  • My favorite quirk of mine is …
  • I ______________ myself daily to remind myself of my worth>
  • Loving myself is a gift because …
  • My ability to appreciate myself has taught me to …

Today, love yourself.

  1. What would you do differently right now if you loved yourself?
  2. How would loving yourself change your ability to take risks?
  3. If you were true to yourself, could you love yourself better?
  4. How would your life change if you had joyful living as a goal?

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Ep. 125: CYL Week 23-For or Against

Our brains are powerful, and that’s something we can probably all agree upon without much thought. Yet we want you to think about it deeper. Think about how your brain puts every piece of information it encounters through a filter, and that filter is how you see the world.

Do you see the world as an abundant, kind, and loving place? If you do, then every piece of information you encounter is seen through that abundant, loving, and kind filter. Everything that happens to you is “FOR” you and for your own good. On the other hand, if your filter is based on lack, competition, and fear that is how you will see the world. The world will appear to be “AGAINST” you.

This episode of Live Out Loud Mondays is focused on examining your personal filter, seeing how it affects your life, and giving you the top tool to shift you filter to be more optimistic and seeing just how much the world is FOR you.

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“Do you plan on life working for you or against you? Do you anticipate people liking you or disliking you? Do you expect life to be easy or hard? We all a have basic filtering system that either anticipates good or repels good. If you are bent on seeing things from a negative point of view, your filtering system will find a way to make that a reality regarding any situation. That also works for a positive frame of mind. Either way, you win! Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

  • Think of the last time you thought the world was against you. I challenge you to find the gratitude inherent within the problem itself. Fill in the blank: Today I am grateful for __________________________.
  • Now think of four more gratitudes. Making a practice of doing five gratitudes each day is optimum. And of course, the objective is to think of a gratitude anytime you feel the universe is against you.

Today, be grateful.

  1. List three moments in your life where you felt like the world was for you.
  2. List three moments when you felt the world was against you.
  3. Please write a gratitude for each of the above moments.
  4. If the world was for you every minute of every day, how would your life be changed?

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Ep. 124: Week 22-The Gift of Rejection

Rejection can be a gift? How? Join us for this episode as your Live Out Loud hosts take on Ch 22 of Rhonda Britten’s book Change Your Life in 30 Days. 

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“Rejection is going to happen because all of us have varying opinions, values, and beliefs. When someone is supposedly rejecting you, it is not you they are rejecting. It is your values, beliefs, opinions. I know that it feels personal. Being objective during these times of emotional upheaval will support you in seeing the truth of rejection.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Today, risk rejection:

  1. Do you feel rejected at work? Home? Creatively? From yourself?
  2. When you feel rejected, how do you react? Get defensive? Shut down? Get angry?
  3. When, where, or with whom are the feelings of possible rejection most likely to occur?
  4. What other ways could you deal with rejection? Come up with five new ways to deal with rejection that empower you.

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Ep. 123: CYL Week 21-Luck, Fate, and Destiny

Luck, fate, and destiny are words that take your ability to be proactive and make a difference out of the mix.  With luck you are an innocent bystander; fate happens to you; and destiny is preordained, giving you no power to change it.

Today the Live Out Loud ladies will discuss giving up luck, fate, and destiny, putting them aside and putting yourself in the forefront.  It is time to count on yourself and create your own future rather than allowing something outside of yourself to determine your results.

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“No one has control over everything. It isn’t possible. Yet if you do your best in the areas that you can impact, the areas that you can’t will allow you to learn to trust the process, an important aspect of being true to yourself. I am sure you have heard the saying that luck is when opportunity and hard work meet. So true.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

  • List five thing you have no control over:
  • List five things you have control over:
  • Look at your list of the thing you DO have control over. On a sacale of 1-10, how well are your achieving the things you have control over (1 is no effort being made, 10 is that you are putting forward the most effort)

Think of a fateful experience you have had since beginning your Change Your Life journeyGive yourself credit for the things that prepared you to recognize, and then have the courage to take action.

  • Your fateful experience:
  • You had the ability to recognize and act on fate because …

Today, no more luck, fate, or destiny:

  1. Where have you been using luck as an excuse?
  2. How has believing in fate held you back?
  3. What would happen if you quit relying on luck?
  4. How would your life change if you didn’t need to fulfill your destiny?

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Ep. 122: CYL Week 20-Momentum

This is awesome! We have made it 2/3 of the way through Rhonda Britten’s book Change Your Life in 30 Days. Let’s celebrate our new awareness, our new skills, and our new accomplishments. This week we’ll look back on the past 19 episodes to check in with where we are and to claim our growth and development. Today’s episode is all about supporting our momentum as we become more and more true to ourselves.

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“Learning so much in a short period of time is a stellar accomplishment. Most people don’t want to take such a stringent self-inventory of themselves. The last twenty days you have been building the momentum that will propel the permanent changes you seek. You have ten more days to absorb all that you can about fulfilling your potential. Together, let’s continue to turn your hard work into a new you.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Today, check in with yourself to build momentum.

  • My desire for balance in my life makes me feel …
  • If I stay true to my ___________, I will automatically have more balance in my life.
  • The lie I most frequently tell is …
  • When I lie, I do it because …
  • Excuses excuse me from facing my …
  • I have used __________ as an excuse for as long as I can remember.
  • My biggest regret is …
  • If I had been aware of my core need ____________, my life would be different because …
  • If you want to get what you want, you must be willing to go …
  • I want ___________ to help me …
  • The words I most frequently use that keep me stuck are …
  • I am practicing loving myself by giving up the word or phrase …
  • I know it is my intuition when …
  • The biggest difference between the voice of fear and my intuition is …
  • I must trust ___________ in order to trust others.
  • In order to build trust, I must …
  • My unwillingness to forgive ___________ is holding me back.
  • In order to change my life, I must forgive myself for …

My top three commitments are:

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My top three insights are:

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The biggest lesson I’ve learned so far is …


It has changed my life, because …


List three risks you have taken in the past 20 days:

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In the past twenty days, where have you taken a risk and asked for something you would have previously avoided? List your top three requests:

List one example of a request you have made that remains unfulfilled because of your judgments. Maybe the request seems stupid or selfish to you. (No request is stupid or selfish.)


Now that I have been making the necessary changes to be true to myself, what is possible for me now? How could my life change?

 

Have you been listening to your intuition? Have you been honoring that voice within that has the power to guide you through the unknown?

 

List five times you have acted on your intuition in the past twenty days.

Please share five of your favorite personal acknowledgments that you have written down over the past twenty days:

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List three situations where forgiveness is in order:

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Ep. 121: CYL Week 19-Forgiveness

Holding on to grudges, animosity, and hurt is one of the most hurtful things one can do to one’s self. Join us today as we discuss forgiveness.

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“Learning to forgive yourself for the ways you put yourself last will help you put the past behind you. If you can’t forgive yourself, the likelihood of you achieving clarity is reduced. Forgiveness provides clarity and clarity encourages insights and that supports a change in behavior.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Today, forgive.

  1. Who do you blame for any of your problems or difficulties?
  2. What part of your life is on hold because you have refused to forgive?
  3. If you could hear, “I’m sorry,” from anyone, who would it be? Have you forgiven him or her?
  4. Who have you refused to say, “I’m sorry,” to?

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Ep. 120: CYL Week 18-Intuition

Intuition will tell you the difference between what you should do and what you are meant to do.  Your intuition is here to guide you to fulfill your potential, to be true to yourself above all else.  When you are willing to live in the unknown, intuition can be heard.  When you are willing to be wrong about everything, intuition gets clear.  When you are judging less and loving more, intuition feels like it is coming directly from within you.  Join us to explore the voice of intuition as the pathway to being true to yourself.

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“My intuition is not based on logic or even my heart. When I ask my intuition for an answer I am getting input from a source unseen that is bigger than my perceptions. You can call your intution the voice of God or Allah or Universal Energy. It doesn’t matter what it is called, it works the same regardless. Your intuition is here to guide you to fulfill your potential, to be true to yourself above all else.” Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

  • What is a decision you must make today?
  • List your top three answers for this decision.
  • What feelings come up when you contemplate each of those answers as “THE” answer?

Today, listen to your intuition:

  1. Describe the difference between the voice of fear and your intuition.
  2. When was the last time you heard your intuition?
  3. What decisions in your life have you made intuitively?
  4. If you don’t hear your intuition regularly, how do you make decisions?

BONUS EXERCISE: For the next 24 hours, list all the times you listen to your intuition. It may be once or twice or not at all. The number doesn’t matter. It is the commitment to observe that will eventually make the difference. Let go of your desire for results and your intuition will be heard loud and clear.

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