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Ep. 114: CYL Week 12-Ask for What You Want

You must be willing to ask for what you want and tell people you need help.  If you aren't willing to admit you need help, you are either a people pleaser, afraid to get rejected or look bossy, or feel that you are not worth the effort.  All lies.  When you tell others what you want you are giving them a gift. Giving your loved ones specific action steps supports them and supports you.  If you want to feel empowered and connected, give those you love doable tasks and watch them perk up, listen and take action that is supportive.  Are you willing to go for what you want?  Tune in today!

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"Why do you tell the people you love what you don't want? If you tell me "Don't do this" and "Don't do that," I will most likely feel ashamed and insulted but hardly motivated to change. Focusing on the negative rarely works. It severs the connection ... When we tell people we love what we want, they can help. Your friends and family will know what to do. They can contribute to you and feel like a part of the solution."  Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)


Steps for Asking for What you Want:
  1. State your feelings.
  2. Give the reason you're asking.
  3. Make your request.
  4. State your desired result.
  5. Express your gratitude.

Today, ask for what you want

 Write down the last time you wanted something but didn't ask for it.

What stopped you from asking?

If you could ask for anything from anybody, what would it be and from whom?

How would your life change if you got what you wanted?

Commit right now to asking for what you want at least three times today. At the end of the day, please fill in the three ways you asked for what you wanted.
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Ep 113: CYL Week 11-Regrets

Do you use regrets to beat yourself up? To convince yourself that you can't change? To tell yourself that it's too late?

This episode of Live Out Loud Mondays looks at regrets and puts them into a whole new light. Regrets tie us to the past, ruining our abiity to be our true selves in the present.  Letting go of regrets allows us to forgive ourselves, experience increased self-love, and become empowered to move forward. 

Join us as we move into Day 11 of Rhonda Britten's Change Your Life in 30 Days to see how you can move beyond regret into trust, faith, and transformation.

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"When we do things we regret it's because we are trying to get our core need satisfied ... when we are unaware of our core needs, they drive most of our decisions. When we become aware and can see our core need for what it is, an unfulfilled part of us that is fueled by our fears, we can make more thoughtful and empowering choices. It doesn't mean we still don'thave the need, but we will be able to act on fulfilling it rather than reacting." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

CORE NEEDS:
Respect, Safety, Fun, Space, Rest, Acceptance, Friendship, Openness, Honesty, Health, Support, Understanding, Family, Harmony, Trust, Commitment, Solitude, Faith, Fairness, Belonging, Love, Structure, Joy, Abundance, Power, Peace, To Be Heard, Responsibility, Financial Stability, Success, Community, Change, To Be Understood, Predictability, To Be Included, Control, To Express Feelings

Please pick your number one core need:

Look through your past and find three situations that you wish hadn't happened. Then, ask yourself: How were you trying to get your core need met?

Today Honor your Core Need
  • Name five actions that would heal your core need.
  • Take at least three actions today that help support your core need.
  • At the end of the day, write down the actions you took. Give yourself credit for being more true to yourself.

Wikipedia description of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs

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Ep. 112: CYL Week 10-Integration

WOW 10 weeks, CAN YOU BELIEVE IT??? We are 1/3 of the way through this wonderful journey and today it's about checking in on progress thus far. Join us, call us. Come tell us about your journey. We want to celebrate your progress no matter how small or how big. ANY and ALL progress is GOOD

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"You have been working hard, and today we are reflecting on your transformation. It is always good to take a step back and consider what you have done. It builds your confidence to take more risks in the future. It reminds you that change is possible. It allows you to see that you are willing to grow All of that is necessary in order for you to move forward." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)


Please acknowledge yourself five times for the changes you have made throughout the program:

Please three of list your most revolutionary insights:

List three stretches you were willing to take during this program -- three risks -- and three dies:

What are five results that you have noticed?

Today is your day to integrate and take inventory:
  • It's time to ground your shifts and changes one more time ... write a letter of gratitude to yourself, from yourself. Start it with your name, "Dear ... "
  • Rate your ability to embody the following topics on a scale of 1-10 (one is lowest, 10 is highest:
  • + Passion (1-10)
  • + Purpose
  • + Intention
  • + Discipline
  • + Stretching
  • + Risking
  • + Die Zone
  • + Seeing Truth
  • + Confidence
  • + Shining

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Ep. 111: CYL Week 9-Shine Your Light

When we are fighting to be our better, truer self we must not forget to honor our accomplishments and the risks we have taken.  Rarelly do we let our light shine.  Usually our fear of being rejected covers up our good intentions and we stay stuck  ito our negative thougts, feelings, and opinions.  Shining your light could be as simple as being happy no matter what mood anyone else is in.  It could be acknowledging your accomplishmenrs as they happen rather than years down the road.  Being proud of yourself is an important aspect of shining your light.  Sharing your feelings with another and allowing someone to get to know you is telling the workd you are willing to shine.  Shining your light is a choice.  It is a choice to make if you want to own your power and be empowering.

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"Shining your light takes courage. It isn't easy to say "I did it" loud enough for the world to hear. Fear usually stops you from sharing your accomplishments, revelations, or transformations. Instead, it tells you to minimize, ignore, or devalue your endeavors. It tells you it isn't humble ... we fear that if we shine we will stop someone else from shining. That isn't true. Your light does not take away from another. There is enough light to go around." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

List your top three wins ...

Name three compliments you would love to receive about yourself ...

List three people you have refused to value and/or compliment ...

Today is your day to shine
  • Blow your own horn. Name at least three pieces of good news you shared with your mate, friends, boss, etc. in the past month.
  • How do you feel when you share your good news?
  • What stops you from sharing good news?
  • What do you think will happen if you shine?
  • How do you feel when someone shares good news with you? Does it matter whether they are someone in your personal or professional life

*** Terry's Bonus Exercise ***

  • List 100 things you love ...
  • List 100 skills you have ...

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Ep. 110: Week 8-The Freedom of Discipline

Discipline often has a bad rap -- it seems wrought with sacrifice and takes away your freedom. So let's look at how you really use (or don't use) discipline. Instead of being disciplined around impossible expectations and the idea of punishing yourself, let's look at how to use discipline to bring us more freedom. 

Discipline is about being accountable to the true you -- your passion and your purpose. It gives the tools and skills required to succeed and helps build confidence and trust in yourself. Join us to see how a little more discipline can go a long way toward your happiness and satisfaction.

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"Being truthful with yourself is an important step in self-discovery. I don't think people lie to themselves on purpose, but in truth we do make up reasons why we can't or can do things. Discipline gets a bad rap and our dreams go by the wayside. Understanding the difference between discipline and freedom will give you the assurance you need to do what must be done with less fear." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

You are invited to complete a Life Log, a daily list of your activities logged every half-hour. Keep track of activities that ignite your passion with a "P". Write "NP" for activities where there is no passion.

Click here for Life Log Template

Also, put a ↑ for activities that move you forward in life. Note ↓ on activities that keep you stuck or hold you back.

Today, Practice Disciplined Freedom
  • Can you count on yourself to finish a task that you started?
  • How many projects are left undone in your home right now?
  • What would your life look like if you were disciplined?
  • What could you accomplish if you were disciplined?

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Ep. 109: CYL Week 7-Are you Making it Up or Is is True?

Ahhhhhh!!! The stories we tell yourselves...are you making them up or are they true? maybe it is, maybe it isn't. The better question might be...are YOU fearless enough to find out. Come join us for week 7of our Change Your Life in 30 Days.

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"Am I making it up or is it true? ... That question is designed to help you put your emotions to the side while giving you time to contemplate new perspectives. When you come up with only one rationale for anyone's behavior it proves you want to be right more than you want to be open. Focus on expanding your creativity by coming up with at least three reasons. It isn't about excusing their behavior, it is about understanding it and allowing yourself to see things differently."  Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Today, Practice Being True
  • Why can't you be true to yourself?
  • What excuses do you make when things don't go your way?
  • What things are you making up about the people you love? (Just because you think your father doesn't love you doesn't mean it is true. Check your emotions at the door and focus on facts and facts alone.)
  • List the emotions that you feel when you make things up about people. For instance perhaps someone looks at you and turns away. You feel rejected. Do you make up a story about the person (they are jealous, selfish, etc.)?
  • If you had to ask yourself, "Am I making this up or is this true," before you could speak, how would your life change?

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Ep. 108: CYL Week 6-Stretch, Risk, or Die

The Live Out Loud ladies will continue day six of Change Your Life in 30 Days.  Stretch, Risk, or Die.  When you take an action you have avoided but isn't necessarily hard,you are at the first level of fear, called a "stretch".  Breaking through to the next level of fear is a "risk".  The "die zone" usually consists of situations that you have successfully avoided for a certain period of time or that you would never even think of geting involved in.  Join us as we continue this enlightening discussion. 

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"Face your life. Face your fears. Stretch. Risk. And be willing to kill off your old negative, confining thoughts. It will feel like a part of you is dying, and it is. The part that no longer serves you. The part that keeps you stuck. That part that fear controls. Let it go." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

Name an area of your life that would have to change in order for you to be more true to yourself ...
  1. List five stretches you could take.
  2. List five risks you could take.
  3. List five actions you could take that would feel so scary, you would feel like a part of you is dying.

Today Stretch, Risk, or Die

  • If you stretched each day, how would your life change?
  • What stretch, risk, or die must you take in order to change your life?
  • What stretch, risk, or die have you ignored that's stopping you from being true to yourself?
  • Which stretch, risk, or die do you want to avoid at all costs?

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    Ep. 107: CYL Week 5-Affirmations, Intentions, and Goals

    Affirmations and goals are fantastic tools to help manifest positivity and success. Yet sometimes affirmations seem like nothing more than wishful thinking. And hitting your goals doesn't always make you feel completely satisfied.

    That's where INTENTIONS come in. Intentions are like the special sauce that brings it all together -- creating the synergy that propels you toward your true desires.

    This episode of Live Out Loud Mondays distinguishes between goals, affirmations, and intentions and helps you put them together to pack a powerful personal development punch that moves you forward fast! (Based on the book Change Your Life in 30 Days by Rhonda Britten, founder of the Fearless Living Institute and Emmy Award Winning Life Coach from Starting Over.)

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    "When you think in terms of affirmations, intentions, and goals, your desires will start to feel more attainable and your confidence will rise ... I want you to live with your intention at the forefront of your mind. Use that as your measuring stick of success today. Nothing else. When you do that, you will be amazed at how much freedom you have to express more of your true self." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

    Today Live with Intention

    • Think of a result you want in a specific area of your life. Now claim that you have achieved it by stating it in the present as an affirmation.
    • Turn your affirmation into an intention by shifting the focus from a completed task (affirmation) to something you can practice.
    • Goals support your intentions. List a minimum of five goals -- actions that are supporting your intention.

    Now let's go deeper ...

    1. How would your life be different if you lived by your intention?
    2. How would your life change if your intention made your decision for you?
    3. Describe a relationship using intention as the foundation.
    4. If you could create any intention, what would it be?

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    Ep. 106: CYL Week 4-Purpose and Passion

    Purpose and passion are tow of the most powerful driving forces in our lives. Without these, our lives would be dormant. Today we look at what these look like, how we might identify them, and how they work together. Come join us as we become more fearless together to uncover move of our true selves -- based on the book Change Your Life in 30 Days by Rhonda Britten, founder of the Fearless Living Institute and Emmy Award Winning Life Coach from Starting Over.

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    "When people tell me they want to achieve a goal, they are either looking for the passion to achieve it or the purpose to believe in it ... Purpose directs passion and passion ignites purpose." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

    1. How does passion show up in your life right now?
    2. What would your friends say about you if you were more passionate? Coworkers? Family?
    3. What is scary about passion?
    4. Name three things that you fear would happen if you were more passionate?
    5. Name three things that could occur that would change your life if you were more passionate?
    6. Please write down at least 25 you love -- no matter how silly or embarrassed you might be ....

    Today focus on Passionate Purpose

    • What is your purpose?
    • Name three lessons you can learn from your present living situation.
    • Name three lessons you can learn from your present job.
    • Name three lessons you can learn from your present relationship.


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    Ep. 105: CYL Week 3-Building your Confidence Muscle

    Self-confidence comes from taking risks. Many people think they have to gain confidence BEFORE they take a risk, but it's through risking that we come to count on ourselves -- no matter what. 

    Today's episode focuses on building confidence with compassion and making the effort to achieve long-lasting results, even if it means feeling stupid, silly, or inadequate. In order to grow in confidence and authenticity we must be willing to feel every feeling and take action in spite of discomfort. 

    Join us on the journey to finding our true selves -- based on the book Change Your Life in 30 Days by Rhonda Britten, founder of the Fearless Living Institute and Emmy Award Winning Life Coach from Starting Over.

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    "Confidence is something everyone wants but few are willing to do the work to achieve. Being willing to feel your feelings and face your fears are two of the risks you must be willing to take in order to gain confidence." Rhonda Britten, Change your Life in 30 Days. (The following questions are also taken from Change your Life in 30 Days.)

    Define confidence:

    How would you know if you had more confidence?
    • I want to build my confidence in the area of ...
    • If I had more confidence I could ...
    • When I am with a confident person I feel ...
    • When I feel confident I can ...
    • I am confident ________ % of the time.
    • If I had more confidence, I would be truer to myself because ...
    1. List your top 10 confident moments.
    2. Name three challenges that you are facing right now.
    3. Now imagine that you had confidence. What would you do differently?
    4. What feelings are you afraid to feel regarding these circumstances?
    5. If you were no longer afraid of your feelings and could count on yourself, what could be the happy ending for these challenges?
    6. What could you gain or learn from these situations that you can apply to other areas of your life?
    7. What is keeping you from getting that result?

    Today, build your confidence
    List ten confident moments that you have had today. I understand that your confidence may have waned, but reminding yourself you were confident at one moment during that encounter will help you focus on what matters. Your willingness to give yourself credit is an important step in building confidence.

    • What decision has been avoided because you haven't had the confidence to decide?
    • Name one thing that you would do right now if you had more confidence?
    • Would you be able to make more money? How much more?
    • If you were confident would you have the same job? Friends? Mate?

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